tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4197809670591896593.post2679778391321359477..comments2024-03-14T09:07:12.675-04:00Comments on Still Playing School: The After School Attitude: Why Is My Child Acting Out at Home?Devanyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05623352274996033195noreply@blogger.comBlogger43125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4197809670591896593.post-68474914351025525302021-11-23T19:46:26.683-05:002021-11-23T19:46:26.683-05:00This is absolutely spot on when it comes to what I...This is absolutely spot on when it comes to what I have been seeing from my Kindergartner, and I was completely lost as to why my sweetheart was going completely bananas all of a sudden. And she is truly the model student at school. Thank you so much for the insight and pointers, this is truly appreciated.S. Brewsterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15970509824683450300noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4197809670591896593.post-15255296207410531152016-08-30T23:32:08.929-04:002016-08-30T23:32:08.929-04:00Thank you so much for writing this. My daughter wa...Thank you so much for writing this. My daughter was so tired after her second full day of Kindergarten that all she collapsed into a nap. I thought she'd wake up happy but instead she had problems forming sentences and could only cry at every little thing. It was exhausting for all of us and I was terribly worried about her. This article was just what I needed. Thank you!BRosenthalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16649552761208732127noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4197809670591896593.post-80208492429846014332016-08-10T21:39:18.194-04:002016-08-10T21:39:18.194-04:00My son would do the same thing when he went into K...My son would do the same thing when he went into Kindergarten and the school didn't help at all. I ended up coming in and watching the class and saw that the teacher just didn't understand that some kids need direction not suggestion and we actually ended up switching schools and haven't had a problem since. In all fairness to the teacher it was her first year teaching and they put her in Kindergarten.<br />Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17213493149471298142noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4197809670591896593.post-1859489627717613982015-09-20T15:47:04.431-04:002015-09-20T15:47:04.431-04:00All of those are very good reasons and a final one...All of those are very good reasons and a final one, they are just tired! They need rest because they are going, goining, going all day. Those children and preschoolers that are in an all day program need to just get some sleep. It might mean they aren't in a ballet program, or start t-ball, or go to a art lesson,etc. They need rest and in this day and age we fail to let our children rest. We make them into little adults that have to be constantly busy and their little bodies are beggin for a break. Thank you for insightfully saying what many parents should know but feel pressured to keep up with the Jones to have their child involved in everything.Ms. Whttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06566213182200821623noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4197809670591896593.post-12495972945295050442015-09-18T09:18:08.017-04:002015-09-18T09:18:08.017-04:00This is incredibly insightful and I appreciate the...This is incredibly insightful and I appreciate the advice! Thank you elizabeth gallowayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16972959532011968268noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4197809670591896593.post-59489849155544429222015-09-17T13:31:06.914-04:002015-09-17T13:31:06.914-04:00Great article and helpful tips - as an adult it...Great article and helpful tips - as an adult it's often hard to remember what it was like to be a kid going through these things, and my 7 year old often has a hard time verbalizing when she's upset or tired or afraid of something so many times I have to try to guess.NikkiG61576https://www.blogger.com/profile/08581600875063363893noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4197809670591896593.post-17341060028182214062015-09-17T12:32:42.378-04:002015-09-17T12:32:42.378-04:00I was an Elementary Art Educator in public schools...I was an Elementary Art Educator in public schools for over 35 years. I am also type 2 diabetic. Mom of a sweet 4th-grade student called me once saying that daughter came home raging and acting out, Art was her last class of the day. This sounded completely opposite the girl I knew in class. I wondered if she was having food / blood sugar issues, and that it <br />might be reasonable to check with her doctor. Sure enough, she called me soon after to report the student was hypoglycemic, and she was able to solve the problem with her doctor's help. Don't overlook foods, nutrition, blood sugars, <br />and especially transition time. Kids have a tough, tough time with transitions.rtchrhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07643473601761195820noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4197809670591896593.post-49764682404743742142015-09-17T08:43:51.693-04:002015-09-17T08:43:51.693-04:00Great article! I certainly figured out your techn...Great article! I certainly figured out your technique after 1st grade and have now applied it to my now 2nd grader and new Kindergartner. However, they always say you should have kids do their homework after school before switching into Home Mode. I have found the grumpy does not help with after school homework and if I wait to long, then it is worse because his focus is not there. Still working it out....... Thank you for putting this all into words for us to see.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4197809670591896593.post-60268424992602180692015-09-16T22:48:13.053-04:002015-09-16T22:48:13.053-04:00I remember my son's teachers always telling me...I remember my son's teachers always telling me how "well behaved" he was at school. I was absolutely shocked that they were talking about the same kid I lived with. I just flat out asked my son, "WHY are you so good at school and so crazy at home?" His reply was, "Because I KNOW you will LOVE me anyways." I am so thankful he was well behaved at school AND also thankful that he was comfortable being himself at home. I much prefer that to the reverse. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03600065476688694633noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4197809670591896593.post-88181664782199918852015-09-16T19:15:03.673-04:002015-09-16T19:15:03.673-04:00Just today my son came back from nursery and was a...Just today my son came back from nursery and was all hyper. I am truly happy it is not the other way around, though!muslimahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17338627841303441979noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4197809670591896593.post-43856531268371545842015-09-16T14:06:08.181-04:002015-09-16T14:06:08.181-04:00Thank you for this. I have been stressing for the ...Thank you for this. I have been stressing for the past week on the way my son's attitude and actions have been. He is 4 years old he has been in prek since he was 3. This year we moved so is a new school new teachers. The first week he was ok going and coming from school but for the past week or 2 every morning he says he doesn't want to go to school and he cries and fights (when getting dress). I asked the teacher how he is at school and she said he is good and happy little boy. But his behavior at home after school has been bad too. He has being having alot of tantrums that last so long with crying when he doesn't get something that he wants. He was never like this in the past. I am so stress that i don't know what else to do. Any help would be appreciated. Thank you. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4197809670591896593.post-21058523512214330812015-09-16T08:30:14.763-04:002015-09-16T08:30:14.763-04:00Im so glad i came across your article. My son just...Im so glad i came across your article. My son just started kinder after being home all his 4 1/2 years. Everytime i picked him up and ask him about his day he would have an attitude and would not share anything about what was done in class. He'd actually get mad and snap saying "i dont know".<br />So when we get home he'd eat, relax and then will come out and say," mom you want to hear my story?" Thats when we'd sit and I'd listen to him. He would tell me what he did in class. <br />So thank you for your article and for making me understand my child more.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13318751204442170171noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4197809670591896593.post-77680355339984482242015-09-16T08:23:14.350-04:002015-09-16T08:23:14.350-04:00My 2 and a half year old boy acts out before going...My 2 and a half year old boy acts out before going to daycare but I can still totally relate to this. Thanks for sheding some light.Arhica73https://www.blogger.com/profile/15497683147747955211noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4197809670591896593.post-64407210752575383142015-09-15T22:59:24.516-04:002015-09-15T22:59:24.516-04:00I have seen my daughter (now in 5th) behave in a q...I have seen my daughter (now in 5th) behave in a quite similar way, where she'd rather be a closed book, and never seem to let me into her school world. I will say that this year is Drastically different, and may have something to do with more friends, and now her little Kindergarten sister to walk home from school with (I walk with them). I also try to let them play with their friends for a little while (yes I'm still around for that) after they have a little snack, and unload their bookbags. I find that the other children will also tell me about their days, and I feel blessed that everyone's willing to open up to me, being the only parent outside with them. (They seem to all just want someone who will listen)Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10745356379566388557noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4197809670591896593.post-6296496504458958862015-09-15T20:51:21.715-04:002015-09-15T20:51:21.715-04:00Maybe it would be easier for them if they went eve...Maybe it would be easier for them if they went everyday? So they could have a set routine? At 3 it's hard for them to understand that sometimes they go to school & sometimes they don't. Just a suggestion. Good luck!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4197809670591896593.post-12299282797018078082015-09-15T19:37:12.826-04:002015-09-15T19:37:12.826-04:00TOTALLY JUST HAD THIS HAPPEN TODAY!!! My daughter...TOTALLY JUST HAD THIS HAPPEN TODAY!!! My daughter was a BEAR!!! Put her in bed at 6:30 after a bath, and she was down for the count and out like a light in 5 minutes....UUGH, so frustrating tho!! GOOD LUCK!!Jennhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16418009375011529346noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4197809670591896593.post-76190357623975521152015-09-15T11:37:55.086-04:002015-09-15T11:37:55.086-04:00My daughter is only 3 days into starting shool but...My daughter is only 3 days into starting shool but this is excellent advice thank you. Yesterday she wouldn't tell me about her day and was in a sulky mood. Then when I got the Lego out and we were concentrating on building that she started volunteering some info about her day. Kirihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16354201286761811733noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4197809670591896593.post-71344497276824989722015-09-04T22:41:11.761-04:002015-09-04T22:41:11.761-04:00My daughter is the same, a very bad attitude once...My daughter is the same, a very bad attitude once home but at school she is the perfect student Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4197809670591896593.post-73793650437552407052015-08-27T13:25:28.976-04:002015-08-27T13:25:28.976-04:00Thank you for posting this. My son has been in pre...Thank you for posting this. My son has been in preschool since he was 3 with very little issues when he came home, however once he started kindergarten he would come home with a major attitude. <br /><br />The same attitude I remember having when I came home from school. Except for me, my mom chose to ignore my attitude and disrespect rather than talking about it or trying to find a solution. That was not something I wanted for my son, and especially not something I was going to accept!<br /><br />I loved the idea of having a transition period between school and home, even if it's as simple as changing clothes. For us, we started having our "after school snack" and quiet time with a movie or show. No talking, just relaxing and taking a moment for ourselves. It's been working wonders! Of course there is the option to talk if he wants, but it's mostly just quiet. He's done so much better, no attitude, no acting out, no fighting with his brothers or his mama (thank goodness!) It's been quite a turn around from the first few days home from school. ♡Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4197809670591896593.post-79537202284430988972015-08-21T22:18:54.609-04:002015-08-21T22:18:54.609-04:00Thank you! My daughter just started full day kinde...Thank you! My daughter just started full day kindergarten on weds. This morning I watched as her teacher took her down the hall to her classroom crying hysterically. She loved preschool so this is not the norm for her. Last night she was also refusing to listen to us and do anything she was asked to. Tonight she was telling me how much she missed me and how she doesnt want to go back on monday. I really hope it doesnt last long. I cant take her crocodile tears every morning! Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13033299351342400439noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4197809670591896593.post-90582086527155234922015-08-18T19:27:37.761-04:002015-08-18T19:27:37.761-04:00Love this post! This will help me a lot with my o...Love this post! This will help me a lot with my oldest. Thanks for sharing:)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02711448783915199106noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4197809670591896593.post-22362952285815200092014-12-20T18:13:28.423-05:002014-12-20T18:13:28.423-05:00Sharing as this is great reassurance for most pare...Sharing as this is great reassurance for most parents, and thank you for the disclaimer that this should only last about a month. I think it's important to note that sometimes our children are dealing with something else (like bullying or feelings of failure), or something needs to change in their school day. One of my children with ADHD we finally decided to have him stay inside for the last recess and we saw a huge attitude change -- he was exhausted from the self-control required in dealing with peers and switching back and forth between structured classroom settings and unstructured outdoor time -- having that 20 minute break halfway through the afternoon to sit in quiet and decompress made a world of difference!Jenniferhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08085491785980784751noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4197809670591896593.post-86673994357721784422014-09-14T18:10:17.349-04:002014-09-14T18:10:17.349-04:00I have SEEN this in my children. Now I have three...I have SEEN this in my children. Now I have three of them in school, and they all are showing this type of behavior. Thanks so much for this wonderful post and tips. Now I have some better tips for helping them and now I know why my kids respond better when I ask them at dinner about their day than right after school. Thank You. I am pinning this and will share it on my facebook page.Deborah Nielsonhttp://mommycrusader.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4197809670591896593.post-3348559978856838792014-09-10T21:17:40.657-04:002014-09-10T21:17:40.657-04:00I am a pediatric occupational therapist. I could ...I am a pediatric occupational therapist. I could not of said it better myself!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4197809670591896593.post-91235814972162749402014-09-06T12:46:35.279-04:002014-09-06T12:46:35.279-04:00This is such a helpful post - thank you for writin...This is such a helpful post - thank you for writing it! Totschoolinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14242904651473375793noreply@blogger.com